Bahumi On Her Relationship With Her Father

"I knew that he was different"

By  | May 26, 2022, 11:13 AM  | Bahumi Mhlongo  | Relationships

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Bahumi Mhlongo has finally opened up about how it is growing up with a gay father. The daughter of the Idols SA judge Somizi Mhlongo, has taken to his reality show Living The Dream With Somizi Mhlongo.

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The actress decided it is time she spoke about how it really feels to have a gay father. She said although she knew that Somizi is different, she could not differentiate between gay and straight. She just saw Somizi as a father.

“I don’t think I’ve really spoken about having a gay dad. To be honest, having a gay dad growing up wasn’t a factor for me. I couldn’t necessarily differentiate between gay dad from straight dad,” said Bahumi. “It was always just dad for me. I knew that he was different but it never changed how I felt about him as a father,” she added.

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In the previous episode, she spoke about yearning for a sense of belonging. She found it healing to go and visit her grandmother Mary Twala at the grave.

Palesa Madisakwane also spoke about how it is to have a baby daddy that is gay. She revealed that she did not know at first and that Somizi hid it. She revealed that she got shocked when his mother and sister told him about his sexuality.

“When I went to speak to Somizi’s mother and his sister, I remember Somizi’s mother saying ‘my child, you can see how Somizi is. He isn’t like other boys. Give us the child and go on with your life.”

“I had also just found out that he was gay and I had fallen pregnant with his child, you know? It was a confusing time of my life to understand what being gay meant. I think in my little girly mind, I thought I had a boyfriend,” she added. “I could brag about my boyfriend being a part of Sarafina whenever he came to see me,” she laughed.

“What hurts me the most is that when he does his interviews or when I read somewhere… he would often say that I knew he is gay and that is false. When he says I knew that he was gay, how did I know such? Where would I have learned about homosexuality through him.”

She is referring to the interview he did with Cassper where he said Palesa knew,
“Even the baby mama knows that when she told me she liked me, I told her I was gay. She said I was lying and she tested me. I decided to go for it and that’s how it happened,” he told Cassper.

Then Palesa got dragged for saying such about Mary who is no more. But Palesa clarified what she meant by this.

"When uMa [Mary Twala] said I can give the baby to them, she was not ordering me she was not insisting or taking my baby away from me. As a caring and loving mother she was to me she meant she will take care of my baby and she loved me enough to want to see me go back to school and make a good life for myself," she clarified 

She could even see Bahumi whenever she wants to. "Anytime any day I was allowed to fetch my baby and visit my baby hence I became part of the family. Please note most of these clips are edited out because of time so please do not misinterpret or misunderstand the conversation. God blessed me with a beautiful and loving mother and family. May her beautiful soul rest in peace," she ended off. 

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