Nomsa Buthelezi: It Was Love At First Sight

Nomsa goes in depth on her relationship with Zandile

By  | Sep 30, 2020, 09:44 AM  | Nomsa Buthelezi  | Relationships

The former Our Perfect Wedding presenter got her perfect wedding and is celebrating that milsetone. A year ago Nomsa Buthelezi a.k.a 'Gomorrah Diva' and her partner Zandile Shezi tied the knot in an intimate traditional ceremony.

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The presenter and her physiotherapist wife posted a video where they went in depth about their relationship saying it was love at first sight. Their affair was a long distance relationship with Zandile having resided in Ladysmith and Nomsa in Johannesburg. When they met they had other partners but ended things when they found each other.

"We got married last year on 28 September. We met in Mpumalanga at Riah and Simphiwe’s wedding and it was my first gay wedding. When I saw Zandile, I told my makeup artist there’s my type. Then Zandile also noticed me. Then her best friend ran towards our bus and started greeting and kissing me on the cheek," explained Nomsa.

Having to juggle work and her relationship as well as her kids, Nomsa said everything that happened, was a miracle and life-changing.

"After the ceremony, Zandile asked us to join them for the reception. I went back to meet her and her friends. Sometimes I become sad because I’ve to leave my kids but I taught them to be strong. I was also going through things and I feel God knew what I wanted and I didn’t pay attention. Things happened like a miracle and my life changed. There was something different about her. “But I was also very scared because of past relationships," said the presenter.

She spoke about how she never believed Zandile when she proposed. Zandile also revealed that the lobola negotiations were off to a rocky start but at the end things worked out for the best.

"But after meeting Zandile, she also did not call me because she was scared of rejection. I then called one of her friends and asked her to pass my greetings to her. From there we started communicating. I thought she was joking. But when she actually proposed I was at work and she told me she would send her family at home. I was shocked but eventually told my parents. They were also shocked. In my head I could see the Daily Sun headline. So I kept the news secret from my friends.

“I started proposing at the reception. She tried avoiding the subject but I persisted. When I proposed, she didn’t believe me until I told her to ask for a date from her father. A date for lobola negotiations was set and my team left for Joburg. At first it was difficult, because they were demanding a high price but my chief negotiator convinced them. Eventually they reached common ground, said Zandile.

Last year, the couple told TshisaLive that they wanted everyone who genuinely supported them at the wedding and not just anybody.

"You would think I’m focused on things like décor, food and outfits, but I am not. I know exactly what I want when it comes to those kinds of elements and my wedding will be simple, but perfect. I’ve been more focused on making sure that the people who are there deserve to be there," she said.

Nomsa continued to reflect on the times people have pretended to support her relationship with Zandile.

"As a same-sex couple, we have had way too many people smile with us, only to turn and say nasty things about us. Or people that pretend to be happy for us, but wish bad things for us. We don’t want such energy on our wedding day," she said.

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